Chapter Six - Lessons Learned

“The imperfections in someone else’s life are God’s business and not mine. He will take care of that. God does not have an inferiority complex.”

2. Live an Attitude of Forgiveness

Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”

Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven

(Ma 18:21-22).

Joy taught me that forgiveness is not just an act; it is an attitude that precedes the act. I learned that nothing has happened to me that is so horrific that I cannot work through the process of forgiveness.

Because I understand the process of forgiveness, I know that part of the process is feeling the hurt of the offense. This is so important because it gives me permission to be real about whatever went on between me and others.

I need to pardon the person, but not the evil. When I keep those boundaries clear, I am also preventing myself from becoming a victim since I see the difference between hating the sin and loving the sinner. What I like best about living an attitude of forgiveness is that it prevents the tough knocks of life from controlling me. Forgiveness keeps hurt from becoming a sin in my own life.

Joy remembers, “My daughter Vicki and I were at a funeral home for somebody at the church, so of course I knew all the people. I’d been the pastor’s wife for 44 years. I was standing in front talking to some of the family when I looked at the door and this woman, this mean woman with the most caustic tongue, came walking down to view the body…down where I was.

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