Chapter Three - Seeing God In Our Friendships

finding a sponsor. So I prayerfully and carefully found someone who seemed to be working the program herself which she was. The program has a life of its own where peace eventually took place of the chaos inside my own soul.

Relationships of accountability are developed to replace old, dysfunctional habits with healthy, new ones. Within the confines of a trusted friendship, a sponsor passes experience, strength, and hope to the newcomer.

Mentoring, like sponsorship, provides constructive solutions to complex life problems. Sometimes I feel caught in a situation I can’t respond to because I can’t see the forest for the trees. My sponsor offers real solutions that worked for her; some of them may work for me.

Finding a sponsor who shares the same value system is preferable. There are many people from all ages, professions, and ethnicities. For years, Rachel sought the help of a counselor who did not share her value system. She developed a non-Christian view of healing, flavored with new age perspective. Rachel now understands that true healing can only come from Jesus. If we seek non-Christian mentors, they will lean toward the world’s view on healing which is self-help, self-talk, self-control . . . all of which fails in the end because of the reliance on the flawed, human “self.”

Alexandra believes part of the problem for professional Christian women is the church’s tradition that limits women in ministry. “Here’s what I know from being in the ministry for so many years. Church leaders get together, and they do all this stuff, but they don’t ever invite the women in the Christian community who are in business and are leaders in their communities— Christian leaders.

“And I thought, ‘Oh my goodness, they could teach us so much because sometimes in the church we get into so much unhealthiness. These women who are out in the world, they have

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